A few days ago, I came across the Briggs Myers personality test while scrolling through social media. Intrigued I decided eh, why not, and took the test. The results honestly shocked me. I was shooketh to the bone, ha-ha.
Reading about the personality type I was given was like reading a small handout about myself. Though written by another person who had never met me. It was as if they were able to explain me better than myself. Excited, I dug even deeper into the given personality type INFJ.
While I was reading some of the traits, I noticed I do have almost, if not all, of the traits, listed. It also had strengths and weaknesses. Intrigued I dug deeper. Personally, I believe by understanding the basics of one’s personality you can pinpoint and understand why some people are the way they are. It also helps with pinpointing some of the things that one can work on to become the best version of oneself.
With that being said, I thought doing a recommendation post on the Briggs Myers personality test would be fun to do, and help others understand themselves a little better.
What is the Briggs Myers personality test?
Through research, I found that the Briggs Myers personality test is a personality test created by a mother and daughter duo, Isabel Briggs Myers and Kathrine Briggs in the 1940s.
As the online source, Myersbriggs.org explains, “The purpose of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) personality inventory is to make the theory of psychological types described by C. G. Jung understandable and useful in people’s lives. The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment.”
The test focuses on if you are more:
Extroverted or Introverted
Sensing or Intuitive
Thinking or Feeling
Judging or Perceiving
When taking the test there can be 16 different outcomes, the one you receive is the personality type you are. Here are the 16 possible outcomes ranked from highest population count to lowest:
Knowing personality types can be very beneficial if you think about it. We are all different with different outlooks, understandings, and ideas about life. When you narrow down the facts and statistics there is a way to help one another understand each other.
I’m going to come up with a random example using the workplace. Everyone in the workplace is different, some people may have some similarities, but all-in-all we are different and have different weaknesses and strengths. By understanding a personality type you could implement that in the workplace and give people tasks that complement their strengths to better the workplace flow.
This concept may be a little out there, but if a boss or manager took the time to get to know and understand their employees via personality test, they could help their business grow at a faster pace. When there are people working together as a team, understanding one another, and acknowledging weaknesses there is a huge advantage when it comes to building a business. You’ll also be growing relationships within the business which makes an employee trust and enjoy coming to work. Of course, there will be days that are dull, but they won’t be dreading another shift if they feel valued and thought of.
While I know this idea is very farfetched, just as many of my other ideas, I still believe managers and bosses should take their employees into consideration when it comes to strengths and weaknesses. Though, that is another topic for a different day.
What is an INFJ?
As stated above I am an INFJ. What this means is INFJs are Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging. INFJ’s make up 1.5% of the population, making us very few and a bit hard to understand. Honestly, I am just starting this journey on finding out who I am, so I do not know much of the INFJ personality type. I do know I feel more understood and not so alone with my thought processes as I did before I took the test. I was even able to find more like-minded people who hold the same ideas as I do, which is a plus. If you are interested in finding out more, you should definitely check out the free online test.
Some famous INFJ’s include Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa, Tom Selleck, and even Hitler was thought to be an INFJ.
Here are my results, so you know some of what to expect after you take the test:
Where can you go to take the personality test, what should you expect when taking the test?
There are several places you can take the Myers-Briggs personality test. My favorite place has been 16personalities.com. They even have in-depth information about the personality type you get, fun quizzes to see how you and other people answer, and you get your own profile. 16 personalities is an amazing website and dedicated to its readers. There is a lot of free information; though they do have options for people to buy books, courses, and more. Once you’re done reading this, you should definitely go check them out.
I also took the test on a few other websites and got the same results. The 16 personalities test was the best in my opinion. However, I will say you have to be as honest as possible if you truly want to find out your accurate personality type. Here is a screenshot of my results, so you know what you can expect with your profile. Another cool thing is your character is customizable; a nice touch of making your profile more your own.
There will be about a 10-minute questionnaire that you will answer. There are no right or wrong answers, just answer with what you feel is best. There is an extra letter at the end as you can see. I got T, which means I am more on the emotional stressed side than the calm assertive side. I am working on becoming more calm and assertive.
How is this beneficial?
Personally, I find knowing about my personality type beneficial in many different ways. I know I mentioned a few beneficial outcomes prior. However, I decided to include a few more. Here are some of the ways I believe people can benefit from when learning about their personality type:
- Understanding yourself better
- Pinpointing strengths and weaknesses to improve upon
- Finding like-minded people who share the same views and understandings as you
- Understanding other people
- Feeling understood
- Becoming more aware of yourself and those around you
We are all beautifully different, but we are tied together in some of the ways we think, feel, and react to certain things depending on how we grew up and perceived the world around us. Honestly, that’s pretty neat if you think about it.
The Myers-Briggs personality test was conducted by a mother and daughter. They created this test to help people become more understandable and for it to be useful in others lives. There are 16 different outcomes when taking the test. Myers and Briggs created this model with the help of the theory C. J. Jung created. By taking the test at 16personalities.com you can find out your own personality type. Additionally, by finding out what personality type you are you can work on your strengths, weaknesses, understand yourself better and more.
Thank you to everyone who reads, likes, comments, and shares the posts on Maybe Crazy Help. You guys are awesome!! I hope you enjoyed this recommendation post and learn more about yourself by taking the personality test if you have not already.
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All constructive criticism is always more than welcome. I am new to blogging and would love feedback. I learn through my mistakes, so if you find any mistakes let me know in the comments below.
I would love to hear about some of your results and if you feel like the test was accurate or not.
Oh! The facebook share button is giving me a 301 redirect, I am currently fixing this. All other sharing buttons should be working. Just a small heads up.
The Myers & Briggs Foundation – MBTI® Basics, www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/home.htm?bhcp=1.
“‘It’s so Incredible to Finally Be Understood.”.” 16Personalities, www.16personalities.com/.
It is no secret music affects emotions. When you are sad and listen to a sad song, your sadness is usually increased. When you are in a good mood and listen to something with an upbeat tempo, most of the time you feel happier. Additionally, music can be an amazing coping tool though many of life’s hardships. Many therapists recommend music therapy to help with hardships. Keep reading down below if you would like to read about music throughout history, how music impacts the mind, and how I use music to improve my mood.
Additionally, there will be a small snippet of me singing at the end of this post. It was requested by a fellow blogger. Please do not expect too much. I have never had singing lessons and I am definitely not the next American Idol. The most singing I do is usually in the shower. However, I did say I would post a video and I tend to stick to my word even if I am out of my comfort zone. Again, please do not expect too much. I am tackling one fear at a time.
The History of Music
According to the website The Method Behind the Music, the earliest forms of music were probably from the percussion family (drums, bongos, etc.). There is no written evidence, but the origin of the sounds can be traced back to the South American Indians and African natives. They used these beats for religious purposes.
It was around 800 BCE the first written musical piece was found. It was a religious hymn written in cuneiform. The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines cuneiform as forming or arranged in a cross.
If you would like to read more about the inventions of instruments and where they came from, the article History of Music, Pre-Renaissance Music: The Evolution of Instruments and Theory from the website mentioned above, is a great read and very insightful.
These musical advancements are the very foundation of the music we listen to today. Music is very influential and can change our whole mood, either for the good or bad. Furthermore, we use it to learn, improve our memory, reduce stress, therapy, praise, entertainment and more.
I decided to include a small intro to the history of music to show how far we have come. Plus, I have a natural love of history and wanted to include a little into this post.
How Does Music Impact the Mind?
Music can impact the mind in several ways; for both the good or the bad. There are countless numbers of scientific studies that show how music affects the brain. There are good benefits and bad benefits when it comes to music. I will go over the ones listed in the picture in more detail down below.
Can help people gain motivation. Music is a great tool when it comes to needing extra motivation, whether for cleaning the house, studying for an exam, or clearing thoughts to become a more positive version of yourself. Furthermore, music can make exercise a lot more enjoyable if you tend to dread working out. Making a list of upbeat, inspirational, and motivational music is always a great idea.
Music can also help people improve their mood. Listening to your favorite songs is known to help with stress and relaxation. Singing is also a great way to de-stress.
Furthermore, music can be mixed in with lessons and make education fun. I remember growing up and learning how to spell independent from a song. Children learn the ABC’S and other songs through nursery rhymes. School House of Rock is also a fun musical way to learn.
As you can see, music has quite a few great benefits. These are only a few from the top of my head.
Unfortunately, a lot of today’s music promotes violence, drugs, hate, and negativity. We absorb lyrics through our subconscious. I always tell my younger family members to never mistake a good beat that has bad lyrics as a great song. The beat may be amazing, but if the lyrics are promoting hatred, violence, drugs, or anything like that then, in my opinion, it is a crappy song.
I will never understand why some artist uses their talent to promote things like hate and violence. Especially when they have the talent and opportunity to inspire millions to do good through their music. The younger generation is watching and learning from the older generations, they are either going to take from it and copy what they see and hear or stand up to it. Either way, it is causing a division.
This is merely my opinion; it is not to down the artists or anything. I just believe promoting things like drugs and violence should never be a thing. Now rising above that type of lifestyle, I will always support that kind of music.
Furthermore, a lot of today’s music is disrespectful. Calling people out their names and being completely rude. There are certain songs and styles I do not mind. For example, rap battles. I love rap battles. It is a part of a rap battle to “act” and to challenge one another. It’s songs like I’m a dog and calling women bitches, hoes, thots, are more to what I am referring too. Or degrading men and stereotyping. I just don’t understand why it’s “cool” to call one another disrespectful things, even in the form of a song. People wonder why there is so much disrespect. Well, I mean it is promoted through music, tv, and those we are around, what do you expect? Surrounding yourself with that type of lifestyle is what you are going to attract.
Just as some music can help improve your mood, it can also have the reverse effect. When you are depressed, and you listen to a sad song 9 out of 10 times you are going to be more depressed. Songs can easily tug on our emotions.
Music can both be good for mental health or bad. Now, I am not going to sit here and say the music I listen to is 100% positive. It is not. I am just mentioning some of the ways it can affect our mental state of mind. Humans are impressionable by nature. If you surround yourself with negativity that is what you are more than likely going to attract and how you are going to ultimately feel. Same with positivity. Try to find a balance.
How Music Helps Me
If you have been following this blog and website, then you know some of my story and how I grew up in and out of behavioral hospitals as a teen. Music was written down in my chart as a form of therapy. If I became too overwhelmed, I had the option to listen to the radio for 30 minutes to an hour to calm down. I was also able to start taking guitar lessons with a group of other kids who used music as a form of therapy.
For as long as I can remember, I have used music as a way to escape. I would blast my radio and sing to the top of my lungs, not caring who I was bothering in the house. When I could not express how I felt, the music could. Music is such an important part of society, whether people acknowledge that or not.
Here are some of the things that I benefited from by using music as a form of therapy:
- I became calmer when overwhelmed
- Listening to the lyrics and feeling the emotions through songs helped me understand my emotions better
- I was able to focus on the music rather than the emotional pain I had on the inside
- My depression lessened with upbeat music when I was upset
- I gained motivation to exercise and lose weight with upbeat and uplifting songs
- Making a sleep playlist to help me fall asleep easier. I have insomnia and can stay up for days on end, having a sleep playlist helps me rest even when I cannot fully sleep.
As you can see, music has helped me in many ways. I would love to hear some of the way’s music has helped you in times of distress down below in the comments.
As promised here is the snippet of me singing. I used Smule (a karaoke app) to record this on my phone. Again, I am not the next American Idol haha, this was promised for a fellow blogger. I have not had any type of singing lessons, so please do not expect too much.
I am overcoming one fear at a time and this is one of those fears. However, I did make a promise and I stick to my word, no matter how uncomfortable I may be. I apologize if it’s off-key, shaky, or just plain horrible. I am a writer, not a singer, haha. I tend to get nervous without singing along with the artist. Please don’t be too harsh.
Those who personally know me know I have a very childlike soft-spoken voice, I did try to mask that within this video.
I do not own any rights to the song in the video.
Song: Read All About It, Pt. III
Original Artist: Emeli Sande’
Album: Our Version of Events
Music has developed and advanced throughout the ages. As the music progressed, it became noticeable how music can influence the mind, whether for the good or bad. Music can also be used as a form of therapy to help people cope with life’s hardships.
“Musical innovation is full of danger to the State, for when modes of music change, the fundamental laws of the State always change with them.” ― Plato
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So, you want to know why heartbreaks happen? I assume this because you clicked on this post. Heartbreak is something everyone goes through in life. Heartbreaks can come from numerous situations; like not getting a promotion you worked so hard for, the death of a loved one, the broken promises of a parent never attending their child’s baseball game, etc. There are millions of reasons for heartbreak. However, this post will be focusing on why heartbreaks happen relationship wise.
Everyone experiences heartbreak differently. Though, I believe there are feelings that we all experience. Down below are some of the feelings that come with heartbreak:
- Feeling lost
There are many more feelings associated with heartbreak, these are just the ones I thought of from the top of my head. A broken heart is painful and can sometimes make you doubt love ever again. Keep reading below if you are interested in why heartbreak happens, how I’ve gotten through a few of my own heartbreaks, and some opinions on why I believe two people who loved each other deeply, fall apart and become strangers.
What is a Heartbreak and How Can I Overcome it?
According to the online Merriam-Webster Dictionary, heartbreak is crushing grief, anguish, or distress.
In my own words, heartbreak can be a living hell. Lying awake at night wondering why you were not good enough, thinking of ways to take everything back, the crushing feeling of your heart being stepped on, shattering from the amount of emotional pressure it is receiving.
Some people experience deep depression and/or anger through a heartbreak. Especially when it comes to a heartbreak caused by the ending of a relationship. Imagine finding that one person you to spend your whole life with, you share beautiful memories, similar life goals, and you are one hundred percent sure you have found your soulmate.
However, somewhere along the way, your partner decides they want to end it unexpectedly, or you find them with another person. Crushed, you cannot stop the overflowing tears, the squeezing pain of your heartbreaking, the anger of not understanding why it had to end.
Most of the time heartbreaks happen unexpectedly and some people have a hard time going through the heartache that comes along with unfortunate events. Here are a few ways I’ve personally handled heartbreak in the past:
- Talking to a close friend. True friends are there through thick and thin, tells you when you are wrong and can be an amazing rock to lean on when times get rough. Be sure to be there for your friend when they need emotional support as well.
- Journal how you feel. Writing out your feelings can be a great way to get everything out of your mind and on to paper. You can rip it up, burn it, or keep it as a reminder that you went through this heartbreak and came out stronger.
- Ask yourself if there is anything you need to work on within yourself for the next relationship. Get to know yourself, know what you want out of a relationship, what you will not put up with, and stick to it. You are worth so much, never settle for less because of the feeling of loneliness.
- Take the time to heal from the breakup. Try not to rush into another relationship to ease the pain. This often ends due to carrying leftover emotional baggage into the rushed relationship. It is okay to take time to yourself, treat yourself, and fall in love with yourself.
- Realize things like this happen and try to find the lesson within the pain. Just as a flower needs to be pruned in order to grow, we need to prune any negative feelings and actions towards ourselves. Do not overthink, stress, or dwell too much on what ifs and whys. Try to acknowledge that this is something that happens and to move past it.
- Go out. Do not lock yourself away and avoid the world. Go to a park and walk around, take pictures of the beautiful scenery, breathe in the fresh air.
These are some of the things I have personally used and may or may not work for you.
Why Do Relationships End?
Please note these will be my own opinions on why relationships end and why heartbreak happens. Some of you may agree and others may disagree, that is okay. We are all different with different and unique outlooks. I would love to hear some of your own opinions on why relationships end in the comment section down below.
So, why do relationships end, especially when it seems like two people are meant for each other? I believe there are many different factors on why two people once so in love fall out of love and become nothing more than strangers. I have provided several reasons why I believe relationships come to an end down below:
The honeymoon phase comes to a stop. What I mean by the honeymoon phase is the time period where everything is new. There are plenty of things to talk about, there is more effort with things like appearance, and being cautious when talking, there are many places to explore, etc. As I stated before, everything is new. When the honeymoon phase ends and couples become more comfortable around each other, things begin to change.
A lot of people do not embrace this change as a good thing. When someone becomes more comfortable around someone they are more at ease. For example, a woman who constantly wore makeup to impress a new partner might start wearing it less. Their partner may feel as if this means they are lacking in their personal appearance and may raise questions, thinking they don’t care to keep up their appearance. When in reality it was because the woman became more comfortable. (This is just an example, it may seem shallow but this happens all the time.)
Furthermore, when the honeymoon phase ends things tend to get boring. When things get boring sometimes it is easy to fall into the trap of talking to new people in a flirting way to try to regain that feeling of newness. When this happens, it is easy to neglect our partners and causes trust issues leading to the end of the relationship.
Sometimes people chase the feeling of a new relationship and end things when it gets dull. This is unfortunate and it hurts, but it happens. All you can do is remember to keep going forward and one day you will find that one person who will stick by you through thick and thin. If you do not that is okay too, being single is not a weakness.
Communication problems are another reason I believe relationships end. Everyone is different with different beliefs, opinions, priorities, etc. When there are constant debates and repetitive arguments it usually boils down to not listening to one another. Sometimes you have to make a compromise for the sake of the relationship.
To add to the subject of communication problems being a reason for a failed relationship is disrespectful communication when a problem arises. It is one thing to pull your partner to the side and let them know something is bothering you compared to yelling at them and arguing a point.
When people start to argue, and one tries out talking the other, the point of the disagreement is missed and often turns into either a yelling match or an I’m right your wrong scenario. Sadly, when this happens no one is listening to anyone. This too causes many issues and can lead to a hasty end of a relationship.
Time is not on their side. Sometimes two people meet and are perfect for each other. However, time is not in their favor. For example, their dreams require them to go to college far away and they do not have the time needed to keep a relationship afloat. Relationships require time, trust, communication, and respect. Maybe one day the couples who experience this heartbreak come back together even stronger than before.
Similarly, not giving a partner the time needed in a relationship can cause a relationship to come to a stop. By not giving your partner the time they need it can make them feel unimportant and have self-doubts. This can lead to questioning and arguments. As I stated above, relationships require time, trust, communication, and respect.
Haunted pasts. What I mean when I say haunted pasts are relationships that have past emotional baggage from events that either happened in past relationships or from past emotional trauma. This can sometimes cause a barrier to the relationship before it begins. People who have had a rough time growing up often have trust issues, which can cause many unnecessary problems within a relationship. They are not trying to stir up trouble but often do. Some people try to subconsciously push others away out of fear. The same thing goes for those who experience abuse in previous relationships.
Haunted pasts can creep up and cause paranoia, unrealistic expectations, guarded emotions, and more. This is completely unintentional, though unfortunately it still causes many ended relationships.
Being in love with the idea of love and not the actual person. When someone loves someone wholeheartedly, they do not wish to change that person, even if they disagree with some of the things they may say or do. The acknowledgment of differences is there and there is no force behind their actions of love. Loving them is effortless. There is no change needed; only a loving guiding hand through misunderstandings.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they often try to change their partner to fit the idea of love they created. Or they try to become something they are not out of fear of losing their partner. When this happens a lot of frustrations and unrealistic expectations take place. Forcing someone to change, even for the better, usually has the reverse effect and can drive people away.
Similarly, changing your whole way of life out of fear of losing someone is being untrue to yourself and later you will find you are unhappy because you lost a part of yourself.
Changing and growing in a relationship is beautiful when done together unforced. Unfortunately, many people try to force people into their idea of love and it usually ends up in another reason why heartbreak happens.
Remember, these are some of the things I personally feel why relationships come to an end. Let me know some of the reasons you believe relationships come to an end in the comment section below.
Unfortunately, heartbreak happens. However, there are ways to cope and deal with the heartache. Going out and getting fresh air, having a friend to talk to, and journaling how you feel are all excellent ways to cope with a broken heart. Additionally, giving yourself time to heal helps you in the long run by not bringing in emotional baggage. Furthermore, there are many things that contribute to a relationship ending and causing heartache. Like communication problems and haunted pasts. Ended relationships happen, the best thing to do is to keep going forward and try not to dwell on it too much.
I hope you were able to learn something new about why heartbreaks happen from this post. By understanding why certain things happen it can help with understanding emotions attached to things like heartbreak. I believe the first step in overcoming anything is by understanding what you are trying to overcome.
Those who are experiencing a broken heart right now I am so sorry you are going through this emotional pain. The heartache does stop, and you will grow stronger through this experience. Do not let the pain cause you to become bitter. Always remember you deserve love, happiness, and you are worth so much. Never settle for less due to the feeling of loneliness. *Hugs* You will get through this heartache.
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“Heartbreak.” Merriam-Webster, Merriam-Webster, www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/heartbreak
Hello everyone, I am so excited to share with you that I have been nominated for a second time for the Blogger Recognition Award, this time by Tiger Lily Evergreen, who was also awarded this awesome award for her outstanding blog. You can check out the nomination post here. Be sure to give Tiger Lily Evergreen’s blog a look through, she has some great content!
(This post was written out last week, it completely slipped my mind to post it, I do apologize.)
What is the Blogger Recognition Award?
As mentioned in my first post for the Blogger Recognition Award; the Blogger Recognition Award is a way for bloggers to come together and acknowledge each other as talented writers. Building and maintaining a blog is hard work. There is researching, writing, organizing, planning, promoting, and more. The Blogger Recognition Award is just what it sounds like, it an award that recognizes talented bloggers and a way to support each other’s blogs.
I am very grateful for being nominated a second time. It helps me regain lost confidence when things start to get slow and feel like I am, in a way, stuck. My greatest wish is to help others overcome hardship and provide useful information, being nominated is a great reminder to continue forward. So, thank you once more Tiger Lily Evergreen.
When you receive this award, you are highly encouraged to write a post and nominate bloggers who inspire you, though it is not required.
My Blogging Journey
I have always enjoyed writing from a young age, it has helped me through much heartache growing up. Writing has always been my escape, along with reading. As the reasoning behind starting Maybe Crazy Help, I have had a desire to impact the world around us in a more positive way, for years. It was after going through the death of a friend taking their own life, I decided to create a website to help others through the darkest part of their mind.
Furthermore, a month before I decided to start writing someone who was like a second mother to me died of a drug overdose. Heartbroken, I began writing to help others out of their mental pain. As I mentioned in the first post, there is so much more to life than pain and suffering. I want to be someone who can spread light in the darkest times. I use firsthand experiences to let others know they are not alone. I am still at the beginning of my blogging journey and learning so much, I am excited to see where this all goes.
Advice for Beginner Bloggers
- Be yourself. Your blog should reflect you. We are all unique and different, let that shine through your blog so you can stand out from the crowd.
- Do not be afraid to speak your mind. Your opinions matter. However, on the same token, do not be afraid to change your outlook to certain views.
- Do not be afraid to invest in your blog if you want to make a career out of blogging. Investing in your blog is the way to go. Personally, I try to invest a little every month into my blog, whether it is getting self-help books, products to review, or upgrading my plan.
- When the dreadful burnout happens, keep pushing forward and look for new inspiration. Burnouts happen, but you can get through them. Stay focused and don’t overthink.
- Diane Twineheart
- D. L. Wright
- Sunshine and Lollipogs
- Survival Through Faith-Yancosky J.
- Mental Health at Home
- Mothers Wellness Toolkit
- Peace from Panic
- 4 M’s Bipolar Mom
- Lifestyle Blog: Living With Fears and Anxiety
- My Daily Journal Online
To everyone who I nominated, your blogs and websites are beautiful, well written, and deserved to be recognized, even if you decide not to participate. Thank you for creating such powerful posts, you guys are amazing.
I usually do a small description of the websites to pique readers interest in visiting the nominated websites when doing these award posts. However, I am limited on time these days. I do plan on sticking with writing the descriptions from an outside point of view on a later date. So, this post will have an update. Just a small heads up if you read any of the other nomination posts and wonder why I did not include a personal outlook.
After you are nominated there are a few things you are encouraged to do.
- Thank the blogger who nominated you. (Thank you once more Tiger Lily Evergreen for nominating Maybe Crazy Help, you are awesome!)
- Write a blog post on your website about receiving the award
- Include why you started your blogging journey in your post
- Write two (or more) pieces of advice for new bloggers
- Nominate 10-15 bloggers who inspire you
- Notify the bloggers after you get done writing the post with a link to the post
You are not required to do any of this; however, it does help other bloggers get noticed as well as help with backlinks and helps grow your network. Thank you all for everything you do, you all deserve this award.
Things can be frightening when you start something new. The uncomfortable feeling of the unknown can become overwhelming at times. Like leaving home to go to college; or moving to a new place in general. Fear is a well-known emotion, though you should remember, don’t let fear stop you or keep you from achieving your dreams and reaching for the sky. After all, how are go going to soar through the sky and live your dreams if you’re afraid to try?
The poem down below is a poem I wrote one day when doing a poetry 30-day prompt challenge. I will include the challenge prompt down below just in case you are interested in trying it out for yourself. Though I am not the creator of this prompt challenge and all credit of the challenge goes to the creator.
Spread your Wings
Spread your wings little bird
Do not be afraid to fly
I know it is frightening
Way up high
Flap your wings
Leave the nest
Keep reaching for your dreams, little bird
you will pass this test
Soon you will soar high in the sky
So, spread your wings little bird
Do not be afraid to fly
As someone who let fear rule her life for a very long time, I decided to write a post about it. Along with some of the ways that help me overcome the fearful moments in my life; to hopefully help others overcome and conquer their own. Keep reading down below if you would like to read what fear is, how to overcome personal doubts, how overcoming uncertainties are beneficial to you, and how you can help guide others.
What is Fear?
According to the online Merriam-Webster Dictionary, fear is 1a: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger
b(1): an instance of this emotion
(2): a state marked by this emotion
2: anxious concern: SOLICITUDE
3: profound reverence and awe especially toward God
4: a reason for alarm: DANGER
In my own words, fear is the rapid pitter-patter your heart makes when you start something new, see something that frightens you, or the uncertainty that comes along with life. Unfortunately, fear is an emotion that can easily rule your life if you let it.
Common reactions to fear
- Sweaty Palms
- Freezing in your tracks
- Rapid heartbeat
- Excessive worry
- Becoming frantic
- Not thinking clearly to evaluate certain situations
- Panic attacks
Normal Vs. Non-Normal Fears
There are fears that are normal, that have little effect in your everyday life, and then there are some that stop you cold in your tracks. Down below I have provided examples of normal fears and some that can cause a lot of anxiety, uncertainty, and frustration that make simple tasks difficult.
- Spiders, snakes, creepy crawlies
- Water to the extent you are afraid to bathe
- Being in public
Remember, what I mean by not normal is how they can affect your everyday life. For example, I have a deep fear of people. You could imagine some of the difficulties I had before I started working on that fear. Making and keeping friends was one of the challenges I faced. When I would make a friend, I would push them away unintentionally due to the fear of abandonment or rejection. I’ve come to notice when you are afraid of something it usually ties into a greater fear. Don’t let fear stop you from living a normal life in these situations.
Identifying and Conquering Fears
One way to identify the deeper part of your fear is by writing it down and understanding the possible reasons why you are afraid. By identifying the root of the fear, you can start working on overcoming what frightens you. Here are some ways to help you identify the greater fear:
- Write down what scares you
- Write down why you are frightened
- Research fears related to your own
- Write down things you can do when you become afraid
- Think back to your childhood, could there be an event that correlates with your fear
Writing down your feelings is an excellent way to get what is in your mind out onto paper, or if you prefer, a digital diary. When you write or type something out you can keep it for reference. The human mind can only withhold so much information at a time, often when we think of something important it becomes easily forgotten.
Additionally, researching fears related to your own often leads to finding unexpected solutions and good advice in overcoming frightful moments in your life. Here are a few things I personally do to overcome some of my fears:
- I take a deep breath and often face them head on
- CBD Oil helps calm my anxiety, thus calming some of my more irrational fears (like being in public)
- Journaling how I feel before and after doing something that frightens me
- Have a plan for when I go into panic attacks
- Reminding myself I am okay and to take deep breaths when becoming panicky
- Having a supportive friend
Remember, these are some of the tactics I use and may or may not work for you. Identifying the root and conquering fears is very doable, it just takes some mind power, reassurance, and patience. However, I will say the fear will be in the back of your mind from time to time, it’s learning how to not let that fear take control.
Why Overcoming Fears is Beneficial
Some of you might be sitting there wondering why overcoming fears is helpful in your everyday life. Why not just avoid that certain thing? Honestly, you can’t go about life avoiding things all the time, more than likely you’ll often find that when you are trying to avoid certain things, they pop up unexpectedly. Learning to overcome fears can help in the following ways:
- Feeling more confident
- Feeling a great sense of accomplishment
- Becoming mentally stronger
- The ability to help others through similar fears
- Being able to react rationally when certain things appear/happen
Now, I am not saying go outside and try to catch a snake barehanded or go into a crowded area talking to everyone you see. I’m saying don’t let fear stop you from doing things you want. Start small, like going to a zoo and having a snake handler let you touch a snake. Or make it a small goal to compliment one person you do not know, every time you go out. By giving a small compliment, you are making some else’s day while working on social anxiety if you have it.
There are many benefits when it comes to conquering fears, the ones mentioned above are just a few from the top of my head. If you let fear rule you, it becomes hard to live the life you truly want and can cause things like depression, anxiety, stress, etc. Remember, fear is a normal response to alarming situations. However, if it is hindering you in any way, it needs to be addressed so you can move forward in life.
Helping a Loved One Through Their Own Fears
Sometimes it is not us who are needing guidance through fear, it is a loved one. Helping someone through their own fears can be hard at times, and frustrating when you do not know how to help them. Personally, when I would become afraid in the past, I would often become defensive, making it hard for friends to want to help me. Luckily, I realized my behaviors and started working on becoming a better person. So, how do you help someone through their own fears, especially when they can become a handful? Here are some ways my loved ones helped me:
- They let me know when I was becoming defensive. By letting me know how I was reacting to certain things, I was able to realize that I did not want to keep displaying that type of behavior. It gave me more of a reason to want to conquer my fears, especially my irrational fear of people.
- When going to a crowded place they would go with me and reassure me I was okay. Within time, they started walking away from me in public, reassuring me they would be nearby. This helped me so much with my social anxiety. I still get rapid heartbeats at times, but I am able to go into a store by myself now for a short period of time, which is a major accomplishment.
- Constantly reassuring me when needed. I know it can become annoying, but those who are seeking help, it really does help ease our mind.
- They never made me feel as if I were crazy, irrational, or unimportant.
- When I needed to talk, they were always there.
Here are a few more ways you can help:
- Ask them what helps calm them when they become panicky.
- Never make their fear seem stupid or unreal. It is very real to them and if they are trying to overcome something the last thing, they need is to feel like their fear is nothing.
- Share something you were fearful of and how you overcame it.
Being there for someone when they are in need of guidance is an amazing thing to do. By being someone they can go to in a time of need, you are helping them accomplish so much without the fear of being judged. Everyone needs a guiding hand at some point in their life.
Fear is a normal response to frightful situations, things, or events. By identifying the deeper meaning to the fear at hand you are able to gauge where you need to start with working on overcoming said fear. This is beneficial in many ways including having a rational mind when the thing that frightens you pops up. You will be able to handle the situation in a calmer manner. Furthermore, if you keep avoiding certain fears it can cause depression, anxiety, and stress.
Additionally, helping others through their own struggles is an amazing thing to do. By being there in an unjudging manner, you become a rock they can lean on when things get overwhelming. You can help your loved ones through certain fears by sharing your own, along with the way you handle being afraid.
Most importantly, don’t let fear stop you from achieving your dreams.
Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this post, I hope you were able to find useful information. Furthermore, thank you to everyone who follows, supports, comments, and encourages me to continue on my blogging journey of helping others. You guys are awesome.
A friendly reminder, we are collecting letters and cards in time for Christmas to deliver to homeless shelters, VA centers, women and children centers, group homes, and hospitals. If you are interested in sending a card or letter of hope you can find all the information in What Can a Letter Do? So far we have collected 259 cards!!
All constructive criticism is greatly appreciated, I am new to blogging and would love to hear feedback. This is all a learning process and any advice is more than welcomed.
Also, I created two new pages last month. My Art, which is a gallery of some of my drawings with quotes from the shows or movies attached to them that correlate with the drawn character. In the near future, I plan on writing a small 500-1000 word fan fiction short story that has a small lesson behind it regarding mental health. Though it is just an idea for now.
My second page is a page of self-written Quotes that I often come up with during meditating. Be sure to check them out and let me know what you think.
Fear. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fear
Hello guys! I just wanted to do a quick update on the letter and card drive we are doing in time for Christmas. We have been able to collect 109 cards so far! We have yet to receive letters, though I am sure they are on their way. I am so happy to be able to do this and share this awesome update. (Excuse my bed in the photo, I have been working nonstop for the past 3 days).
UPDATE TO THE UPDATE!! We are up to 259 cards collected and I have found a place that sells 150 cards for only 8 dollars a box! How cool is that?? Now we are able to expand our card drive even more.
8 people donating a dollar would be 150, 16 people donating would be 300 cards, 24 people donating a dollar would be 450 cards, 32 people donating a dollar would be 600 cards!!! 600 smiling hearts for a moment in time, 600 sparks of hope possible relit. 600 people knowing there is someone out there rooting for them to overcome any hardship life can throw at people!
To everyone who has donated a dollar so far, thank you! Without you guys, this would not be possible. To everyone who has taken the time to write a letter or is planning to write a letter, thank you. Your kind words and encouragement is going to help someone, somewhere reclaim hope. Sometimes we just need a little reminder that we are all still human and need a gentle push to keep trying.
I know some of you might be sitting there wondering why you should donate a dollar to one of the places like homeless shelters, hospitals, veteran centers, women and children centers, etc… Honestly, you don’t have to. You can save that dollar for something else. However, I want you to close your eyes for a minute and imagine everything you had was gone and you were left with nothing and nowhere to go. It’s cold and raining as you make your way downtown, your stomach is grumbling from the extreme hunger you’re feeling. Just hoping a kind soul would notice you and offer something to eat.
You’ve tried time and time again for a job, praying that someone would give you the time of day so you can get your life on track, however, it feels like no one wants to help you. Your thoughts start weighing you down as you wonder what you’re going to do, you know you can’t keep surviving like this. Depression sets in and you feel like giving up.
Heartbreakingly, to millions of people, this is not just words on a screen, this is their life. Many of the people who experience this did not do anything to become homeless. Sometimes many become homeless due to weather conditions destroying their homes and having nowhere to go, or the death of a loved one forcing them out onto the streets unable to keep up with rent, utilities, and necessities. Some are running from an abusive relationship, afraid to go back. Unfortunately, many children go through this as well. This small exercise is a reality for millions of people. There are thousands of reasons one can instantly become homeless. These people are not just addicts and alcoholics. Honestly, even if they were, they are still human and deserve compassion, reassurance, and hope.
Let’s do another exercise. This time close your eyes and imagine you are in a hospital getting help for a mental disorder, rare disease, or life threating surgery. You don’t know when you will go home. Doctors are constantly evaluating you. Your heart thumps hard as they tell you heart-shattering news. Trying to be strong and brave for yourself. You have no family, and the friends you do have can’t make it to visitations. You feel lost, hopeless, and so small in this big old world. We’re not even going to go into the financial costs, though that’s a burdening thought to carry as well.
Thousands of people experience this on a daily basis too. I’ve had firsthand experience with living in a hospital for an extended period of time, though I was lucky enough to have family visit me at times. It’s scary, lonely, and mentally draining. The feeling of not being near your loved ones or knowing if you’re going to get better. Guys, it’s hard.
This post is not to guilt trip anyone into anything, this post is to get people to step into someone else’s shoes just for a moment and imagine what they must be going through. Truth is you don’t know the story of the homeless man you pass in your car, the one begging for change just for a bite to eat at McDonald’s, so he doesn’t have to eat out of the trash. Or the woman in the institute trying to better herself, the one you pass on your way to work. She is not crazy, she is lost, hurting, misunderstood, and needing hope.
I know that a letter or card will not fix anyone’s situation at hand, but they might gain enough hope and encouragement that their flame is lit once again. The flame that burned out as their world fell apart. A card or letter can be kept for the days where someone feels like giving up, a small reminder to keep pushing through and trying to move forward. A reminder that someone out there truly cares enough to take the time to think about them.
My hope and greatest wish with this drive is to bring a ray of hope to someone and motivate them to keep going forward. That they come to realize with time and effort they can overcome anything life has dealt them.
We will also be including phone numbers, places, and websites for each shelter we give out the cards and letters to. Sometimes people want to get better, move forward, and do good for themselves but they do not know where to start. By providing local information they have a place to start.
There is also the option to write out a letter and send it to our P.O. Box for me to distribute to a shelter. You can find all the information on What Can a Letter Do? We will be doing this every year, collecting cards and letters in time for Christmas.
Christmas is a very sensitive holiday to many, especially to those who do not have the option to spend it with their family. I am hoping to provide light and hope during these times. However, if you would like your card or letter to be delivered sooner that is completely fine. Just email me at [email protected] and let me know.
As I said, this post is not to guilt, pity, or con anyone. I just wanted to help people understand some of the things people might be experiencing. You do not have to donate, or anything, though it is greatly appreciated.
Thank you all for reading this update on the card and letter drive and thank you all who continue to support Maybe Crazy Help’s mission to spread light, love, and reassurance into the world.
Shortly after I posted Come Share Your Inspirational Story at Maybe Crazy Help, a kindhearted gentleman from the UK emailed me and let me know he was interested in submitting a guest post. We emailed back and forth for a few days and he told me some of the things he’s endured in life and how he uses blogging as a form of inner healing and a way to help inspire others. He was able to guest post on a blog prior, his story is such an inspiration and a reminder of no matter what life throws at you, you can always get back up and continue to fight back.
“Hi there, I’m Lee.
Very new to blogging but I’m getting there, piece by piece, literally. I write from the heart, use my past issues and demons and put them down in words. I tend to rhyme but do intend to write the story behind myself. I’ve started but nowhere near even scratched the surface. I was the father to 3 babies who all sadly passed away. This broke me as a father. I strive forward each day, I’m also half blind due to an attack, suffer other injuries but that didn’t stop me becoming a black belt in karate. I’ll post a couple of my blogs here for you and hopefully, you’ll check my other poems out. Thanks for your time.”
Touched by his first email I wrote him back and let him know I would be honored to share his story on Maybe Crazy Help. I enjoyed reading through his blog posts. His blog is unique, inspiring, and heartfelt. The poetic touch and beautiful pictures are heart capturing. A day later I received another email from Mr. Wright, going deeper into his journey through life. As I read the email my heart ached for him, as a parent of a rainbow baby (a baby born after a miscarriage), I could not imagine losing my little boy. I could not envision the pain and heartache he had endured.
“I’d love to have someone message me and say, hi there, I read your post and wow you’ve actually made my day.
My poems are raw, honest and deep, mixed with negative and positive aspects. I travel back in time when I write, occasionally breaking down as I relive a sad episode, but my writing is like my personal therapist. I started my blog in March this year, I’d started writing towards the end of 2018.
I was always saying yeah, I’m ok or not too bad. Never ever have I sat down and poured my heart out. I think over the years I’ve been programmed to be a hard nut to crack, they all say men should be strong and impregnable but that’s just ignorance of yesterday’s thoughts. Since writing I’ve really opened up, yes it still hurts to talk openly but I’ve been carrying my baggage for over 20 years now so it’s hard to let the words out but writing my thoughts and feelings, well that’s a different story. I absolutely love writing. Only wish I’d started years ago and not kept all this mayhem trapped inside.
After I lost my third child, Kirsty, she was almost 3. She was my little princess. I loved her to bits, a real little daddy’s girl. I was on holiday in Kos, Greece. I was married back then. Well, the horror struck 3 days before we were due to leave. I was saying goodbye to a German couple who were leaving that night. The kids playing very close by, I turned around and saw Kirsty playing and then all of a sudden, I remember not hearing her. I turned around and couldn’t see her, all of a sudden, a child screamed, she’s in the jacuzzi, she’s fell in. I couldn’t even believe what I was hearing. I flew towards her and quickly dragged her from the water. Adrenaline was pumping through my veins, I desperately tried to resuscitate her, but she had already taken in too much water and her tiny body had given up.
Writing this yet again sent the tears flowing but it always gets me when I get deep into my thoughts. I had become a father twice before, Katie was premature and weighed less than a bag of sugar, she was tiny. Sadly, she became ill and a stomach infection proved too much for such a little girl. Brandon was born stillborn and didn’t have a chance. I’m now an uncle to an ever-growing family and also a grandad, a title I love.
My past as definitely been an uphill battle but one I’ve learned from, dealt with issues not meant to be dealt with and faced more sadness than I ever imagined. Life just isn’t fair at times but it’s how you carry on that makes you the person of today
So, I try my best these days, I work in a job I don’t really want to do anymore so that needs addressing very soon, I train in karate 3 times a week, this calms any issues usually. I get out as much as possible and take pics of beautiful sunsets. A brilliant past time of mine and when I’m not doing any of the above or looking after Ava, my granddaughter or spending time with my family well I’m writing.”
Through everything Lee went through, he still continued to get up and fight for brighter days while inspiring others. I caught myself wondering why life can be so cruel at times, especially to those who did not do anything but love. I realized it was to help others.
Lee’s journey through life can help others who may be experiencing the loss of a child, those who feel like they cannot go on, realize they can push through the pain and continue to pay it forward and help others through this heartbreaking experience later on.
We all go through so much in life, when we come together and help heal one another we grow spiritually. Life is tough, reaching down and helping others through similar pain is a beautifully inspiring thing to do.
A few days had passed since the last email (I was overcoming a cold), I received another heart touching email:
“Hi there, me again. So, a good sleep, the sun’s shining and I now have my reading glasses.
Since writing my blog and posting to social media like Facebook, I feel some people think I’m about to end myself. My past issues are not known to all, well they weren’t but since opening my mind and starting “Inside My Mind, My Darkest Journal” I’ve had friends, family asking if I’m OK. My blog really is about my life and past ordeals so has I smile back and say yes, I’m fine I still hide the broken parts. I try so hard each day to walk with my past, sometimes away from it, some days hand in hand with the demons that haunt me.
I was recently asked why I’m so rubbish at remembering dates, birthdays and generally any upcoming event. I purposely stop myself from remembering dates to some it’s ignorant or I just don’t care. Thing is the real point is dates to me cripple me, I’ve had so many days over the years that have crushed me that if I was to spread those dates around my head I’d be in a permanent state of hell. I kind of know something personal is looming but I refuse to let it own me. I’ve been a slave to the pain and heartache for too long.
One example is my daughter’s birthday would fall on the 17th December, she fell asleep on the 3 November, so I won’t even think or try not to think about Christmas until at least the 17th has passed. Puts me on last minute for presents but it’s a coping mechanism that helps me, so I use it. Has a result of this way of thinking I forget everyone’s special dates, I feel bad for it but having a large family I’m usually reminded in enough time, usually.
Life can be hard, pitfalls that seem to swallow your dreams but it’s how you smile at your demons that make you or break you.
Inside My Mind, My Darkest Journal continues and journey well who knows what’s next but I’m looking forward to it.
Lee lives with this sadness every day; some days are a lot harder than others, but he has learned how to cope with some of the pain through his blogging. His loved ones clearly worry about him, because he’s opening up and releasing his emotions through writing.
Sometimes when we are trying to express ourselves through traumatic events, our loved ones start to worry. It can be a very scary feeling for those on the outside looking in because they don’t know how to approach us or understand the feelings we are trying released.
He expresses some of the other coping mechanisms he has come to gain during times where things are harder to cope with. He expresses how he had to force himself to become forgetful of dates because remembering some of the dates that come to pass are too painful.
“My journal and journey continue, I was once asked to write about my past, how I am today and how I kind of fixed the broken pieces. Angela, my partner, has always been there and tried to push me in the right direction. I try to listen but sometimes my past takes me down difficult directions.
I just keep going forward with a few detours along the way, I’ll eventually get there.
I was online not too long ago and came across a blogger that was after people who had gone through and living with depression, anxiety and other issues, her name is Mariah Harris. I sent her my poem “Sad Tones” and from that became a guest blogger for the first time ever, my writing had inspired someone to actually spend time to acknowledge my thoughts, my words.
It made me very proud of myself. This has created a mindset that my issues put into words can let others relate, learn and feel less alone. We all fight our personal demons but if we learn to walk alongside them, we become better versions of the ones before it all became broken.
Learning about his lovely partner filled my heart with joy knowing he has a special someone who is there to be his rock and guide him through the toughest days. Having someone to help through mental anguish helps in so many ways.
Dealing with very heartbreaking and traumatic things can make us become defensive and not want to listen to others at times. Just as Mr. Wright says, “I try to listen but sometimes my past takes me down difficult directions.” However, having that one person there through everything, who is understanding, loving, and forgiving; makes things a lot easier to cope.
Mr. Wright had the opportunity to guest post prior to guest posting on Maybe Crazy Help. His words touch and inspire so many, I am beyond grateful he reached out and asked to guest post on this website. I was led to ask him if he would like me to compose a guest post for him, or if he would like to compose one himself.
Thanks for your kind words. You made a huge smile appear on my face whilst reading. I’d love it if you would write it, too read someone else’s views around how they perceived my approach. It’s very inspiring to think someone is going to write on my behalf. Links to my site would be fantastic. I’m really looking forward to reading my guest blog written by yourself. I put a lot of personal feelings into my writing, all comes from the heart and my demons that try their very best to change my outlook on life, just glad I’m a strong individual. I know a lot of people who aren’t so lucky. I hope you’re feeling a lot better now. I’ve just finished a 3-hour karate session so need a nice relaxed evening to rewind a little. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.
A very excited L D Wright”
I decided to do a mix of both. His words are powerful, moving, and inspirational. I, myself, could not capture the right words, for I have not lived in his shoes. Getting to know Lee, I learned so much:
- No matter what life throws at you, you can always fight back and become a guiding light to help others out of the dark.
- While the sadness still remains activities like Karate, photographing, and spending time with loved ones helps alleviate the heartache
- Having that one person who sticks by you through thick and thin are truly a beautiful blessing
- You can make peace and walk alongside your demons to become a better version of yourself
- Sometimes our coping tools we develop do not make sense to others, but that is okay as long as they are not destructive.
I am beyond honored to have such a wonderful person to guest post on Maybe Crazy Help. I truly believe his story will touch thousands of hearts and help many through dark times. I have included the emailed links to some of his latest work on his website down below. Definitely go check out his heartfelt blog Inside my Mind. My Darkest Journal and subscribe.
Beautiful Blog Posts By Lee Wright:
Dear you who is feeling blue,
I know things are dreary and your skies are full of grey clouds weighing down, waiting to downpour, like the silent tears you hide away. Sometimes it feels like you don’t want to get up, brush your hair or teeth, let alone go to work or school. The days where you avoid friends and family because you do not want to burden them with your problems. Depression is rough, it is not your typical sadness that comes and goes. Depression can make you feel like you are drowning in your own thoughts and emotions.
The things you enjoy most become dull, boring, and not worth your effort. It can quickly become a weight weighing you down, hard to gain the strength to overcome this emotion. You wonder how some people get so lucky to never have to experience the emptiness depression can bring.
I feel and think about these things too. It is hard most days to want to do anything. Luckily, I have my little one to keep me preoccupied. My heart hurts for those who have to experience this alone, this is one of the reasons why I am writing a letter to the depressed.
I know the words, “everything will be okay, it will all work out in the end” does not do much, though the people who say this mean well. So, from one depressed person to another, I am here to say, let the emotions ride out and do not be ashamed of how you feel. Come to know your depression, your triggers, and how you feel about the word depression.
Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. We are human and life can be rough. Do not put on a fake smile and hope for a better day. This will only make you sad when you are alone. Thinking about why people cannot see through your facade. It’s okay to tell others, “hey I’m a little down today, I’m sorry I cannot make it to the party, movies, event, etc.”
Depression is real and you know what? It is very hard to live with. You are a strong person for getting out of bed and pushing through. You are strong for facing the days, hoping for a brighter day. Do not let someone make you feel as if you are weak minded because you have depression. The truth is you are very strong-minded, and getting through another rough day, shows how strong minded you are.
You are worthy to be loved and understood. You are more than this temporary feeling of emptiness. Your light may be a little dim from time to time, but even a dim light shines in the dark; and on the days where your depression decides to sleep, you are a light that can brighten up anyone’s day because you know how it feels to be in the dark.
One thing I have learned from people who experience depression is most of us carry a lot of compassion for others. We try our best to make others smile because we do not want our loved ones feeling the way we do. We have huge hearts and care about things deeply. I think this is why we feel sadness at an extreme level, and it turns into depression. Though, that is a personal thought.
Depression is not you. You are so much more than just a sad dreary word. You are love, you are a brother, a sister, a child, a friend, a parent, a lover, you are beautiful. Don’t let the weight of the word depression weigh you down. Depression may be a very small part of you, but you are so much more than just depressed.
Those who are going through depression, or have been through depression, I see you. My heart aches for you having to feel this dull dreadful feeling. I’m so proud of you for continuing on and fighting every day. Life is rough and for some of us, it has been hell in a handbasket. Depression is not fun, those who have it know it’s nothing to poke fun at. You are a warrior, battling one of the hardest battles, your own mind. You are brave, strong, and amazing.
I may not know you, but I love and care for you. I know it doesn’t quite make sense for someone to love someone they do not know, but I do. Those who battle their thoughts on a daily basis, just know there is one crazy gal out there thinking about you, rooting for you to overcome your depression, and break free from the thoughts that hold you captive. Keep going forward and fighting, you are going to conquer and overcome anything life throws you. You are strong.
With much love,
Crystal Grasso (Ward)
By Derra Nicole Sabo
The time it took to read: 1-2 hours
Feelings before reading: Interested
Feelings after reading: Hopeful and Inspired
Rate 1-10: 10
I am so excited to write this review, as it is my very first book recommendation post. To begin with, I will let you guys know how I came across this lovely book. One day while I was on Twitter, I sent a tweet out asking people to guide me to some amazing blogs, books, and content on mental health. Derra commented about her book, Anomaly, on the tweet, so I decided to check it out. I clicked on the book and was redirected to Amazon; I was so happy to see this book on Kindle Unlimited. I instantly downloaded it and read the first few pages to get a feel of the book. Long story short, I could not put it down.
Derra writes about insomnia, depression, suicidal thoughts, fears, and more. She writes with compassion and a deep understanding of what it feels like to be lost in this great big world. How it feels to be broken. Her words are encouraging and deep, by sharing her views and outlooks of the world around us she is helping many lost souls know they are not alone.
I enjoy the uniqueness of Anomaly. The meaningful quotes at the end of the pages, the deep thoughtful content, and the realness Derra brings forth is truly inspiring. Though, these are my personal opinions on the book. If you get the chance you should check her book out, read it, and comment below on how you felt.
Personally, I felt as if I were sitting in a coffee shop having a chat with Derra. I loved the friendly, comforting, feeling this book gives when reading it; it’s as if you become a part of Derra’s world. I honestly enjoyed reading Anomaly and would recommend it to anyone who was seeking heartfelt books on Mental Health. This book talks to you, not at you like a lot of books. It gives it a lovely personal touch.
Anomaly is engaging, intriguing, and captivates the mind with well-known quotes, songs, and personal experiences that are bound to connect with its readers. This book will surely have readers thinking, relating, and feeling hopeful. Check it out for yourself down below.
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Thank you all for reading this recommendation post, and thank you to everyone who likes, comments, and supports Maybe Crazy Help. Furthermore, I would like to say a huge thank you to Derra, for writing such an inspiring book. If anyone has any amazing books for me to read, let me know in the comment section below, it is greatly appreciated.
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