A Letter to Those Who Have Depression


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Dear you who is feeling blue,

I know things are dreary and your skies are full of grey clouds weighing down, waiting to downpour, like the silent tears you hide away. Sometimes it feels like you don’t want to get up, brush your hair or teeth, let alone go to work or school. The days where you avoid friends and family because you do not want to burden them with your problems. Depression is rough, it is not your typical sadness that comes and goes. Depression can make you feel like you are drowning in your own thoughts and emotions.

The things you enjoy most become dull, boring, and not worth your effort. It can quickly become a weight weighing you down, hard to gain the strength to overcome this emotion. You wonder how some people get so lucky to never have to experience the emptiness depression can bring.

I feel and think about these things too. It is hard most days to want to do anything. Luckily, I have my little one to keep me preoccupied. My heart hurts for those who have to experience this alone, this is one of the reasons why I am writing a letter to the depressed.

I know the words, “everything will be okay, it will all work out in the end” does not do much, though the people who say this mean well. So, from one depressed person to another, I am here to say, let the emotions ride out and do not be ashamed of how you feel. Come to know your depression, your triggers, and how you feel about the word depression.

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Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. We are human and life can be rough. Do not put on a fake smile and hope for a better day. This will only make you sad when you are alone. Thinking about why people cannot see through your facade. It’s okay to tell others, “hey I’m a little down today, I’m sorry I cannot make it to the party, movies, event, etc.”

Depression is real and you know what? It is very hard to live with. You are a strong person for getting out of bed and pushing through. You are strong for facing the days, hoping for a brighter day. Do not let someone make you feel as if you are weak minded because you have depression. The truth is you are very strong-minded, and getting through another rough day, shows how strong minded you are.

You are worthy to be loved and understood. You are more than this temporary feeling of emptiness. Your light may be a little dim from time to time, but even a dim light shines in the dark; and on the days where your depression decides to sleep, you are a light that can brighten up anyone’s day because you know how it feels to be in the dark.

One thing I have learned from people who experience depression is most of us carry a lot of compassion for others. We try our best to make others smile because we do not want our loved ones feeling the way we do. We have huge hearts and care about things deeply. I think this is why we feel sadness at an extreme level, and it turns into depression. Though, that is a personal thought.

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Depression is not you. You are so much more than just a sad dreary word. You are love, you are a brother, a sister, a child, a friend, a parent, a lover, you are beautiful. Don’t let the weight of the word depression weigh you down. Depression may be a very small part of you, but you are so much more than just depressed.

Those who are going through depression, or have been through depression, I see you. My heart aches for you having to feel this dull dreadful feeling. I’m so proud of you for continuing on and fighting every day. Life is rough and for some of us, it has been hell in a handbasket. Depression is not fun, those who have it know it’s nothing to poke fun at. You are a warrior, battling one of the hardest battles, your own mind. You are brave, strong, and amazing.

I may not know you, but I love and care for you. I know it doesn’t quite make sense for someone to love someone they do not know, but I do. Those who battle their thoughts on a daily basis, just know there is one crazy gal out there thinking about you, rooting for you to overcome your depression, and break free from the thoughts that hold you captive. Keep going forward and fighting, you are going to conquer and overcome anything life throws you. You are strong.

With much love,

Crystal Grasso (Ward)

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27 Comments on “A Letter to Those Who Have Depression

  1. That was incredibly moving, thank you so much for sharing your light and compassion.
    I very much needed to hear those words 💙🙏💗
    💖Sending love right back to you💖

    • Thank you so much. I hate seeing the world have so much emotional turmoil. I am in the progress of creating a book of letters for people to hopefully pull out and read during a rough time for a small spark of hope to keep pushing forward. Seeing the news, the suicide rates, the mass murders, and everything else going on breaks my heart. There has got to be common ground, a way to better the communities, something to help people heal, realize, and change their thought patterns. We all are the creators of our own personal reality; when someone lends a hand and it’s paid forward over and over we start coming together more and more as one. Getting others to realize it’s okay to help a stranger, even if it backfires, is another one of my goals. We live in a period where a lot of us rather block love, trust, and opening up for the fear of being done wrong. It’s okay to be done wrong, it sucks yes, but it just shows that persons current character (I say current because we all can change), not yours. I believe we need to help others more often. We all have emotions, we all need a helping hand or listening ear from time to time. We all need a swift kick in the consciousness every so often as well. I apologize, I just realized I started rambling my thoughts again. Thank you so much for the positive encouragement, I am also happy I was able to provide you with helping words.

      • Haha I enjoyed it 👍❤️ I agree wholeheartedly. Great job girl! Keep up the good work 🙏

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  3. This is Amazing, as someone who struggles with debilitating depresdiom that comes out of the blue, and stays for long periods. This was encouraging. Thank you! – Shaun

  4. Thank you for sharing!! I do not have depression, but some people close to me do and I never know how to help. This gives a lot of insight, thank you!

    • I’m very happy that you were able to find good insight through this post. I am in the process of writing a book of letters for those who are having rough times. This is the first letter of the book. As I was writing this post I became inspired to write letters to many people struggling with many different areas of mental health. Areas like depression, self-harm, anxiety, anger, PTSD, and more. This world has so much heartache, I just want to contribute in some way to help lessen the emotional turmoil a lot of people go through. I love the motto “be the change you wish to see in the world.” This is why I created this website as a beacon of hope through hard times. Thank you so much for your kind, encouraging, words. Depression can be rough. I wish your friends happiness and freedom from their depression.

  5. Great post! I hope it decreases stigma and comforts those who read it, knowing they are not alone.

    • Thank you, my wishes are for people to read this when they get depressed and know that even though it sucks right now, this feeling is temporary. I am in the process of writing a book of letters to those who feel lost. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that it can get better. To hold on to beautiful memories while depression strikes and to always be grateful for the day’s depression decides to sleep. Living with depression is rough, but there are ways to get through the darker days. Thank you once more for the kind words:)

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    • Your post captured exactly how anxiety feels. A person with anxiety may seem cool on the surface, but deep inside there are emotions that are constantly binging forth doubt, questioning, and uncertainty within a response or situation. Even if we are composed on the outside, we are freaking out on the inside. Unfortunately, it happens anytime, anywhere. You sound like such a kindhearted and caring teacher, which is much needed in today’s world. I can not wait to read future posts. Stay strong and keep writing. Thank you for commenting.

  7. Thanks for this article! It’s nice to find more people with the same advocacy on mental health through starting a conversation. I delivered a speech to college students last Saturday. It’s titled ‘The situation is a lot more nuanced than that: A meditation on mental health through Crazy ex-girlfriend.’ I decided to post a four-part lecture on it on my WordPress page.
    Here is the second part: https://kloydecaday.wordpress.com/2019/08/27/debunking-mental-health-stigma/
    Meanwhile, here’s the first part: https://kloydecaday.wordpress.com/2019/08/24/the-situation-is-a-lot-more-nuanced-than-that/

    Thank you for reading my posts and I hope that you give me thoughts on my speech. Follow me too. Be well!

    • Both articles were great! Thank you for sharing your writings. Your lecture at the college was very informative. I applaud you for taking the offer, even though you were unsure. I too have a difficult time speaking in front of others and questions the person who asks me to speak publicly. The topics you chose to talk about are important and should be talked about more often. The show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend sounds intriguing, I might just add that to my queue for later.

      Your article on the mental health stigma was very insightful. Do you mind if I reblog both of your articles on MCH so more people can benefit from your writings?

      • Hello Crystal! Thanks for your interest, and sure, please reblog my posts. It’s all yours. It’s my gift to you 🙂 I love Crazy Ex-Girlfriend because I can relate much to her quirks.

      • I’m trying to post them on MCH’s website but it’s only letting me reblog them to my other two blogs. One is a crafts blog while the other is a weight loss blog that I am getting ready to launch in a few months. I think it’s because I have the busines plan for MCH. I know I don’t have a reblog for my posts on MCH because I bought the plan, I did not know I would lose the option to reblog others posts as well. Hmmm… Do you mind if I write a short intro paragraph and link your posts on my guest blog page? This should also help you generate backlinks to your website which is a good thing for SEO. I apologize for the technical difficulties.

      • Thank you so much. I am writing out a post soon. I apologize for the delay, I have been up to my nose in work and catching up on a alot of missed time. 🙂

      • Oh, no. Please take care, Crystal. 🙂 Also hoping I’d be able to add two more entries of my blog this week 🙂

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