7 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

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Down below is a list of questions I have gotten into the habit of asking myself when I start to feel overwhelmed. This helps me pinpoint and reevaluate where I am in life, what I may need to do different, and if the situation is controllable or not. Maybe this tactic could help someone else become more self-aware and see if a change is needed somewhere in their life.

  1. What is the cause of my unhappiness right now?
  2. Can I change this circumstance?
  3. Do I need to let go of anything or anyone to move forward in life?
  4. Am I making myself unhappy? If so how?
  5. Is there anything I can do differently to help me feel better?
  6. What do I need to do differently next time?
  7. Do I understand feelings are normal and a part of life? It is the action behind the emotion that needs to be controlled and evaluated from time to time.

These questions may or may not help you, remember this is a tactic I use when I become overwhelmed with emotions.

An Example Where You Cannot Control the Situation

Situation: The factory you were working at gets shut down, forcing you to find a new job. Weeks and weeks go by and you are unsuccessful at obtaining a job and bills are getting closer to being due.

The overwhelming stress starts to pack on and you feel yourself about to break. You throw the stack of applications off your desk in complete frustration. (I’m going to use the questions above to show you how these questions can help with recollecting your thoughts)

  1. What is the cause of my unhappiness right now?

    Obviously having to find a new job due to the factory shutting down is what is causing this unhappiness.

  2. Can I change this circumstance?

    I cannot change having to find a new job, but I CAN change my outlook to this whole jumbled mess. Maybe this will lead me into a better job where I get paid more or have more time to spend with my family and friends. What’s done is done, I can’t change their decision. Only my own thoughts.

  3. Do I need to let go of anything or anyone to move forward in my life?

    I need to let go of the pint up anger from the factory shutting down. I know it was beyond anyone’s control and these things in life happen. It would be really helpful and beneficial if I were to find ways to get rid of this anger, frustration, and hurt.

  4. Am I making myself unhappy?

    Right now, yes, I am making myself unhappy by dwelling on something I can not control.

  5. Is there anything I can do to help me feel better?

    I can focus on looking for jobs and not dwelling on the factory and the what-ifs. I can go for a drive, a walk, bicycle ride, etc to look for a new job while admiring the scenery.

  6. What can I do differently next time?

    Hopefully, there will not be a next time. However, if there is I can try doing a small passive income like selling digital arts, writing an eBook, or reselling items so I can supplement my income while looking for another job.

  7. Do I understand this feeling is a normal part of life? It is the action behind the emotion that needs to be controlled and evaluated from time to time.

    Yes, I understand this feeling is normal. It is normal to be upset over losing a job, especially when it had nothing to do with myself. Becoming upset and slinging my applications off my desk was not an appropriate action to my frustration. Next time I will try to handle my actions a little better. That is all I can do.

 

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An Example Where You Can Control the Situation

Situation: You just got into a bad argument with your partner about them flirting with another person in front of you. They call you hurtful names and hurt you emotionally with things they know bother you. You become depressed and decide to go to sleep.

You wake up to a text from your partner saying how sorry they were and how they shouldn’t have treated you like that.  You respond it’s fine, I overreacted. The next text you get says they are going out with friends and won’t be back until late.

This happens often and causes you to become worried, depressed, and stressed. Looking at yourself in the bathroom mirror you burst out into tears from hurt and anger.

  1. What is the cause of my unhappiness right now?

    The reason for my unhappiness right now is because I am being wrongfully treated by someone I deeply care about.

  2. Can I change this circumstance?

    I can stay and hope for my partner to change or I can leave. If they truly loved me they would not hurt me like this.

  3. Do I need to let go of anything or anyone to move forward in life?

    I might need to leave my partner and focus on myself and my happiness. I should not have to feel this way. If we are meant to be then we will find our way back to one another, if not then that is okay. I deserve to be valued, treated with respect, and love.

  4. Am I making myself unhappy? If so how?

    Yes, I am making myself unhappy by staying in this situation.

  5. Is there anything I can do differently to help me feel better?

    I can talk to someone and prepare myself to leave. It will hurt, but I value myself enough to know and understand I deserve to be treated right.

  6. What do I need to do differently next time?

    I can work on myself and then get into a relationship when I am ready. Next time I will watch for the warning signs. It’s okay to have standards and boundaries. I am worth so much more than this.

  7. Do I understand feelings are normal and a part of life? It is the action behind the emotion that needs to be controlled and evaluated from time to time.

    Yes, I understand it is normal for me to be hurt and upset about being wrongfully treated by my partner. Instead of staying in disrespect I can choose to leave to give myself a better chance at happiness in relationships. My actions of me continuing to stay, even though it’s getting progressively worse, are what need to be evaluated. I am worth so much more.

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You probably noticed positivity is the key when calming the mind and asking these questions to yourself. By telling yourself it’s okay, things will get better, you are worth more, etc, you are showing yourself self-compassion. Life happens, people can be hurtful, things don’t always go as planned, it’s just the way life is.

Having a positive mindset helps navigate through life’s hardship a lot smoother. If you were to look at everything negatively, then more than likely you would feel down and upset often.

Hopefully, this post will be able to help someone unjumble their thoughts when things start to get rocky. We are all trying to figure out this life thing and sometimes we need help along the way and a reminder to think things through.

Additional

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this post. I hope you were able to find value or inspiration while reading this. What are some of the ways you help get your mind back on track after becoming overwhelmed? Comment below.

3 Comments on “7 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

  1. Thank you so
    Much for posting this! I am learning self coaching right now and these are great examples. I appreciate you sharing your questions!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope your learning journey is going well. There are so many great resources on the internet when it comes to self-coaching, healing, etc.. I have a Pinterest with many resources if you are needing any. I try to provide helpful content daily for others, the link is there are many different boards with tons of helpful information.

      I enjoy your blog as well. I am a mom to an almost 2-year-old little boy who is my world. Your blog has given me insight into many things regarding parenting. You may also have one new customer, as I am needing guidance with learning how to manage finances for when my business begins to take off in the next couple of months. Thank you so much for reading and commenting on MCH.

  2. Thank you so much for this post. I didn’t know how much I needed this until I read it. I am constantly overwhelmed, especially as a single mom to two young children. If this comes about again I’ll be sure to ask myself the 7 questions!

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